How childhood shapes our self worth around money
On a Scarcity mindset, how it hinders, and how to break free
I have spent a lot of time observing and being inside of personal dynamics and feelings of self worth around money. I am not sure if this is a new thing or not, but many biz owners do not feel secure in a place of abundance or lack self-worth around abundance. It is surely less common. Especially with women, minorities, and those who grew up in chaotic homes or with parents who had opposing spending patterns. Especially within minority communities. So how can we reframe the landscape of our mind and connect with the reality of where we really are and where we are heading?
I believe it starts with being honest.
Today, I would like to invite you to honesty.
I would like to invite you to a journaling activity.
Start by creating a grid of 4 on a blank sheet of paper. Here is mine for example ::
In the first grid (wherever first feels most intuitive to you), I want you to write three words that describe your experiences as a child and your relationship to money.
Let that simmer. Did any words surprise you?
On the second grid, I want you to write one experience where you felt really good about having money, or purchasing something or doing something kind.
On the third grid, I want you to write one word or draw one image of the way money and abundance feels to you right now.
In the final grid, I want you to write a number, any number that you think you would like to earn in this lifetime that would feel like enough. Consider dreaming as big as you want. Don’t be held back by worldly restrictions or demeaning thoughts. Truly allow yourself to be free and dream big.
Now, how did that feel? What did you learn? What surprised you most?
At this point you may wonder where all of this leads, Well, this leads to insights. Insights on how you were conditioned, where you feel lack, what number would feel good to have more of, and maybe this can simmer in your dreams. I believe clarity and purpose are the divine connectors to abundance. If I had to add another word to this grid it would be charity. I love giving and sharing.
A dear friend reminded me five years ago that five years before that would feel like a lifetime. She encouraged me to dream big, and in dreaming big, I have quadrupled my income and have built a life where I can singlehandedly take care of my child alone in California. It is not without it stressors, it is not without low and slow moments. Equally, I have learned I need to have better planning in place for the slower seasons, but there is always an opportunity for growth.
As we water the seeds of your self worth, I encourage you to be brave and show up and share a word or two in the chat that felt profound to you. Don’t hide. Radical honesty is what connects us to each other in deep resonance of shared experiences.
Simply in sharing I am having a hard time with x,y, z and/or I could use support with are great starting points. Maybe you will make a new accountability friend, or maybe, just maybe, you will grow.
Continue to grow and consider pasting this page of insights on your bathroom mirror or somewhere where you are reminded that you are the living expression of a journey called life. Life has called you here for a purpose, and you are divinely living it out through the expression of your offerings. If work does not nourish you fully, maybe there are parts of you that are waiting to be expressed that can be shared. If you are feeling lack, maybe gratitude journaling first thing in the morning and before bedtime is something that can crack you open to the possibilities. There is endless abundance available and you can make a quantum leap to endless possibilities. Find someone you trust will support you when you take that gentle leap of faith, and know, your angels have your back, and this little corner of the internet does too.
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Written under a Gemini sun and a Leo moon feeling introspective and sleepy
